My Twitter feed has been blowing up lately with talk of resolutions for the New Year. How to keep them, which ones to make, which ones not to make, relationship resolutions, health resolutions, and so on. The more I think about it, the sillier it seems. Why wait until a new year to make resolutions? Most of the time people keep them for only the first month or so and then completely forget about them.
The better approach is to make a resolution whenever you want. Whenever the situation calls for it. I understand the feeling of a new year, a clean slate, a fresh start. But who’s to say that tomorrow can’t be your fresh start?
I read a great article from Time today that parallels my thinking exactly. A self-help expert tells us instead of making one-time resolutions, try “regular reflection and soul-searching.” He goes on to say:
[Ask yourself questions such as:] What do I want? What is my life’s purpose? Is there a contribution I can make to my community or to society? What kind of relationships do I want to have? What is my idea of well being, and how can I achieve it?
I don’t ask that you even know the answers, but if you start to do this kind of reflection, it has a very interesting way of not only moving you to the answers but of changing your behavior. So instead of saying, I’m going to have all this willpower, and I’m going to try so hard, which is all mental fatigue, reflective self-inquiry spontaneously leads to change.
This sounds like a great idea to me. I am constantly reflecting on my life anyway, at least on a subconscious level, so it can’t be too hard to write it down.
I don’t normally make resolutions, but I think this year I will resolve to write down (or type) my reflections more. Looks like finally starting a blog was a good first step. And now that I think about it, my desire to blog came as a result of my constant reflection, not because of a spur-of-the-moment resolution. Point in case.